{"id":14730,"date":"2022-12-17T11:26:43","date_gmt":"2022-12-17T11:26:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/agrlaw.co.uk\/?p=14730"},"modified":"2022-12-17T11:27:03","modified_gmt":"2022-12-17T11:27:03","slug":"setting-boundaries-this-christmas-how-to-politely-draw-the-line","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/agrlaw.co.uk\/setting-boundaries-this-christmas-how-to-politely-draw-the-line\/","title":{"rendered":"Setting boundaries this Christmas: how to politely draw the line"},"content":{"rendered":"
The festive period can be demanding, but setting and communicating boundaries can help reduce stress and ensure you spend your time in a way that doesn\u2019t impact your wellbeing.<\/p>\n
Time boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n Learning to say no to invitations when you have too much to do or need some space can be difficult and leave you worrying that you\u2019ve upset the host.<\/p>\n If you find declining difficult, or the host has put you on the spot, buy yourself some time by saying: \u2018let me think about it\/check my diary\/ask my spouse and I\u2019ll get back to you\u2019 before saying no.<\/p>\n Try to do this as quickly as possible, otherwise it will cause you anxiety and the host may be waiting for replies so they can finalise their plans.<\/p>\n Politely decline invitations by:<\/p>\n Don\u2019t make excuses as they may respond with a workaround. For example, if you say you can\u2019t go for a meal because you have nobody to babysit, they may say you can bring the children with you.<\/p>\n It will be easier to decline via text message, WhatsApp or email as if it is done in person or over the phone they may persuade you to change your mind.<\/p>\n You could also send the host a gift to enjoy at the event, such as a bottle of wine or a box of chocolates and ask the next day whether they had a nice time.<\/p>\n Physical boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n Some people love greeting others with hugs and kisses on the cheek, but others don\u2019t. If a friend or family member invades your personal space, it can be hard to tell them their behaviour makes you uncomfortable. It may be embarrassing for you and them, but you are entitled to refuse physical contact with anyone.<\/p>\n It\u2019s best to be proactive than reactive, so telling someone from the beginning is better than tolerating several hugs or kisses and losing your temper by the final one.<\/p>\n Try saying: \u2018It\u2019s lovely to see you, but I don\u2019t like hugging\/kissing. How about a handshake instead?\u2019 Put out your hand at this point for them to take.<\/p>\n Emotional boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n Friends and families are supposed to support each other through tough times, but it\u2019s OK to say you\u2019re unable to help if you\u2019re at breaking point. Remember, no matter how much advice you give someone you cannot solve their problems for them so don\u2019t take them on as your own.<\/p>\n Try saying: \u2018I wish I could help, but I can\u2019t take on anyone else\u2019s problems because my own are overwhelming me\u2019<\/p>\n Intellectual boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n Just because you enjoy spending time with someone, doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you agree on all matters. For example, your brother-in-law may support a different football team and dislikes yours, or your best friend may prefer one political party over another, and you think otherwise.<\/p>\n Even if light-hearted, conversations can escalate and become awkward, ruining the atmosphere of a party and making others feel uneasy.<\/p>\n It is acceptable to disagree but, if things are getting out of hand, politely suggest the conversation should end because you don\u2019t agree and change the subject.<\/p>\n If the person you are speaking to is disrespectful or aggressive, tell them you feel offended as they may not be aware. It is OK for them to have an opinion, but not to force it on you.<\/p>\n Try saying: \u2018This is a difficult subject; shall we talk about something else?\u2019 They may need to have the last word, but after that find something you both enjoy talking about instead.<\/p>\n Our team\u2019s top five tips for boundary setting<\/strong><\/p>\n The team at AGR Law would like to thank our clients for trusting us with their family law matters this year and wish everyone celebrating Christmas a happy and relaxing time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The festive period can be demanding, but setting and communicating boundaries can help reduce stress and ensure you spend your time in a way that doesn\u2019t impact your wellbeing. 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