In most areas of law, representation is important to ensure your rights are upheld and to significantly increase the chances of a favourable outcome.

Immigration cases are no exception, and often we find that navigating complexities, interpreting legal jargon, keeping up with evolving laws and government policy, and language and cultural barriers can be overwhelming and cause difficulties for those opting to proceed without a solicitor.

Below are the reasons we advise you to seek our support with your immigration case.

Supporting your case

Every case we see is different, with each person’s unique situation, nationality, employment status and personal circumstances meaning we create a personalised strategy.

We can support immigration clients with a range of services, including:

  • Family, individual and work immigration
  • Appeals
  • Setting up or moving a business to the UK, bringing new employees to the UK or sponsorship licences
  • Work, family, visit, spouse or student visas
  • British settlement and citizenship
  • EU nationals

Cases can be lengthy as well as complicated and may involve several steps, including attending interviews and providing data. We will explain what will happen as we navigate each step in a way you will understand and keep you updated as your case progresses. We can also advise you in cases where situations are complex, such as if you have any convictions or violations.

Visa, settlement and other applications

It’s crucial to submit the correct documentation within a given timeframe for any immigration cases. Forms must be completed correctly and accurately to increase your chances of being successful and minimise delays, denials or other issues.

We can guide you through the processes, beginning with your application which may need evidence to support it including proof of identity or marital status, being able to support yourself financially, testimonies and having accommodation in place.

Representation in court

Going to court can be a daunting process, so we can represent you, provide a strong defence, advocate for your rights and provide emotional support. As with all cases that reach court, presenting well-prepared, compelling arguments and evidence is important to strengthen your position and increase the chance of success.

Emotional support

Our team understands the implications of a positive or negative outcome of a case, and how tough it is emotionally when you’re going through the process. It’s an uncertain and stressful time for you and your family, so we provide emotional support to you personally as well as the best legal advice and representation to support your case.

AGR Law

We cannot overstate the importance of legal representation in immigration cases. With so much at stake, any errors made and not knowing your rights can prove costly and may result in deportation or denial.

Significant stress and uncertainty are caused by delays in the process, so we recommend that our team take care of all the necessary documentation. This will minimise the risk of missing components or errors, leading to delays that mean you are unable to begin work, start education or even remain in the UK until they are rectified.

If you are denied immigration status you may be deported, so it’s crucial that reasons are fully understood, and legal requirements are met if you wish to appeal the decision.

Immigration law is a specialist area, requiring legal representation from a team which is experienced, qualified, tenacious and with a reputation for excellence. Contact us on hello@agrlaw.co.uk or 0116 340 0094 for advice or to make an appointment.

Domestic abuse charity Refuge says that two out of three of their refuge residents are children, and research indicates that 90% will have been in the same room or in a room next to where domestic violence has occurred. 62% will have been directly abused.

Even if a child is not the direct target of the abuse, witnessing it and seeing a loved one being harmed can intensify their feelings of insecurity and fear. This exposure can lead to severe trauma with long-lasting implications.

In addition, children who live in homes where domestic abuse occurs may not receive the care and support they need to develop properly from their parents or caregivers. This lack of support often results from the heavy burden of the abuse, particularly if the victim turns to drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism.

Legally, any child who witnesses or experiences any form of domestic abuse, whether directly or indirectly, is considered to be subjected to child abuse.

What does this mean for a child’s mental health?

The development of a child’s brain can be influenced by positive and negative experiences at key stages, typically 0-5 and 12-25 years. Early experiences play a crucial role in a child’s learning, health and behaviour, and the harmful effects of damaging experiences can cause significant issues as the child matures. Feeling cared for and supported may reduce the harmful effects and promote healthy brain development, but a caregiver who is affected by domestic abuse may be physically and emotionally unable to provide this necessary support.

Development is affected by:

  • Interacting – Babies interact with adults by mimicking them and making noises to convey feelings of hunger, illness or that they’re in need of affection. If adults fail to respond, development can be interrupted which has implications for later life
  • Stress – Ongoing stress with no or inconsistent support can lead to life-long mental and physical health problems. Some stress can aid development, such as certain social situations or taking an exam, but exposure to domestic abuse can be damaging, especially where there is no support to lessen the affects and help the child to develop coping skills
  • Attachment issues – Attachment theory is the name given to the vital bond between a child and their primary caregiver, especially from early infancy. If this is disrupted, the implications can be severe and wide ranging. The child may become aggressive, disconnected from other children and show no interest in playing with toys, fear a parent or become distressed when they are not there, even for a short time. As they get older, they may reject the caregiver’s attempts to connect with them and become unable to develop adult relationships

Recognising mental health problems in children

The psychological effects of domestic abuse can include:

  • Aggressive, disruptive, bullying and challenging behaviour
  • Anxiety, fear and depression
  • Withdrawal and an inability to interact with others
  • Mood swings
  • Suicidal feelings
  • An inability to form a bond with one of more parent or caregiver
  • Declining performance at school and truancy
  • Harming or threatening to harm pets
  • Self-harming and eating disorders
  • Difficulty sleeping, nightmares and bedwetting
  • Vandalism
  • Drug and alcohol abuse

Some signs of mental health issues might be dismissed as normal behaviour, such as young children having tantrums or a teenager being moody and withdrawn, so it’s important to recognise when there is an issue.

Talking to your child about their feelings

Children may feel too ashamed or afraid to talk about domestic abuse, or they might not be able to find the words to describe what they have witnessed or are going through. They may also feel it is normal for families to live like that if they have never known any different, or the abuser may have persuaded them that their situation is typical or that the abuse is their fault and talking about it will make things worse.

Some children bottle their feelings up as they fear they won’t be taken seriously so nobody will help them, or they won’t be believed or understood, so it’s important to approach conversations carefully.

Using language which is appropriate to their age and development is crucial when they’re ready to talk. A child will feel listened to if your language reflects theirs, for example they may say they feel nervous rather than anxious, so you need to do the same.

During conversations, try to:

  • Explain why it’s important to have difficult conversations sometimes
  • Validate their thoughts and opinions
  • Go at their pace
  • Not looked shocked, embarrassed or upset
  • Admit when you don’t know the answer to a specific question and answer any you can as honestly as is appropriate
  • Never promise that you will keep certain aspects they disclose a secret as they may tell you something which you need to report, such as the abuser’s behaviour towards them
  • Remind them the abuse is never their fault or the fault of the victim
  • Praise them for finding the courage to speak to you to encourage them to talk further. Tell them you love them
  • Encourage them to mix with other people to avoid isolation
  • Teach them to dial 999 if they’re in danger, but avoid burdening them with adult responsibility
  • Remind them it is not their responsibility to protect you, and intervening may be dangerous
  • Lead by example and show them you’re seeking help too

Get help to support your child when domestic abuse is occurring

If you or your child are in immediate danger, ring 999 and ask for the police. Domestic abuse is a crime and will be treated as such.

You can also contact the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000 or help@nspcc.org.uk for advice on supporting your child.

Help is also available from Refuge and their team of child support officers.

AGR Law

Our compassionate, experienced team are available to support all aspects of domestic abuse cases, including obtaining a non-molestation order to protect you and your family.

Domestic abuse victims are not required to pay a fee to the court to issue this injunction, and you may be eligible for Legal Aid if your income is low and your circumstances meet the qualification criteria.

Contact us on hello@agrlaw.co.uk or 0116 340 0094 to find out more.

For parents who are separated, Christmas can be emotionally challenging. This blog offers practical advice for co-parents to make the season enjoyable and stress-free.

Make plans for the festive period early

We recommend discussing and agreeing on plans with your former spouse or partner as early as possible. This will allow enough time for you to resolve any disputes (seeking legal advice if necessary), understand your responsibilities and plan accordingly. By doing so, you can relax and enjoy Christmas without any last-minute changes or challenges, unless unforeseen circumstances occur.

Try to come to an agreement that prioritises the needs of your child. This may require both of you to set aside your personal issues and find a level of compromise. Remember, this is a special time for your younger family members so the focus should be on them. Ask older children for their preferences to show them that their views are important, but avoid putting pressure on them by asking them to choose between you.

You and your ex naturally want to make the most of this time with your child, but remember they may get tired and overwhelmed, especially if they’re splitting their time between two homes, visiting two sets of grandparents and/or other relatives, having two Christmas dinners etc. It’s important to avoid tiring them out, as it could ruin their enjoyment with the other parent.

Avoiding counter-parenting

Counter-parenting is where one parent tries to compete for their child’s favour and increase their popularity over the other by trying to outdo them.

This could be by:

  • Spoiling the child with lavish gifts or activities over the agreed spending limit
  • Allowing the child unlimited access to unhealthy food when you have agreed with the other parent to disallow it
  • Letting the child stay up late when you have agreed to a routine bedtime
  • Allowing them to watch films or TV shows that you have agreed are unsuitable for their age or disposition

If both of you adhere to your agreement, counter-parenting will be avoided.

What do you need to plan?

  • Arrangements for each day. You are both likely to want to have the child on Christmas Day, so compromise will be needed if you can’t host the day together as a family. Explore options such as having two Christmas Days, alternate each year so you each get to spend the most important days with your child or, if travel and distance permits, have the child for half of Christmas Day each
  • What gifts to get: decide how much you’re each going to spend and who is getting what to avoid repetition. Also, agree what not to get. Buying a child a noisy or large toy, such as a drum set, with the expectation that it will be kept at the other parent’s house may cause arguments
  • When the child is seeing family and friends
  • Changeover: times and places that the child will be dropped off and picked up
  • Any trips or holidays that means one of the parents will be unable to see the child

Introducing your child to a new girl or boyfriend

Christmas is a time to spend with loved ones, so if you’re introducing your child to a new partner, it’s advisable to:

  • Let your ex-partner or spouse know to avoid any awkwardness or unpleasant surprises. Discuss the best way to approach the introduction to support your child to adjust. In some circumstances, introducing your new partner to your ex before they meet the children is wise to provide reassurance
  • Make sure you’re certain about the longevity of the relationship. Children will get upset and confused if they’re introduced to multiple people
  • If you can, tell your children together to help them to process the change and show that you are still united as a family
  • Spend time alone with your child to help prevent them feeling that your new relationship threatens the one you have with them
  • Take your time and don’t rush into blending your family this way. You will only get one chance, and you need to work together to make it as positive as possible for your child

Things to remember when planning Christmas:

  • Try to communicate cooperatively and openly. Talking face to face might be easier if that’s possible, but note the finalised plan down or arrange it via text or email if you feel you need it in writing to hold your ex responsible
  • Wider family may want to see you and your child over Christmas but try not to let them pressure you. It may be impossible to please everyone. Perhaps you could see them another time when you’re less busy, or combine their visits so you host a larger group and celebrate Christmas all together
  • Try to focus on having a good time and creating new memories and traditions rather than what Christmas used to be like
  • Take care of yourself when your children aren’t with you. It’s natural to feel emotional if the senses of loss, anxiety and loneliness are heightened. Make plans to keep yourself occupied or embrace the quieter time by watching a film or reading a book. Your child may be concerned about leaving you to spend time with the other parent, so try your best to reassure them you’ll be OK

The legal situation

Contact us if you need help to resolve a dispute about child contact, your ex has broken (or is threatening to break) a court order, or if you need guidance on parental rights.

You can email us on hello@agrlaw.co.uk or phone 0116 340 0094 to speak to a member of our experienced team.

 

What is parental responsibility?

Outlined in the Children Act 1989, which you can read more about here, parental responsibility is defined as:

“All the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property.”

To summarise, parental responsibility refers to the legal rights and duties that require and enable parents to make appropriate decisions about their child’s upbringing.

It includes making a parent responsible for their child’s:

  • Schooling and education
  • Welfare
  • Discipline
  • Medical treatment
  • Religion
  • Name – choosing, registering or changing
  • Living arrangements
  • Travel abroad – holidays or relocation

Who has parental responsibility?

Parental responsibility varies greatly depending on the couple’s circumstances.

All birth mothers automatically have parental responsibility.

With unmarried parents or those who are not in a civil partnership, the father of a child only has automatic parental responsibility if they are named on the birth certificate.

Fathers who do not have automatic parental responsibility can get it by jointly registering the child’s birth or being named on a legally binding parental responsibility agreement. The court can also award parental responsibility via a parental responsibility order, a residence order (if before 22 April 2014) or being named as the resident parent on a child arrangements order.

Same-sex couples who are married or in a civil partnership have parental responsibility if they were a couple in the eyes of the law at the time of receiving fertility treatment or donor insemination. If you were not in a civil partnership or marriage at this time, the second parent can apply for parental responsibility.

Stepfathers, stepmothers, grandparents, family members and carers do not have automatic parental responsibility, but:

  • Stepparents can gain parental responsibility through a parental responsibility agreement, applying for a parental responsibility order from the court or adopting the child
  • Others can gain parental responsibility by getting a child arrangements order, being appointed as a guardian or special guardian, or adopting the child

Does a parent without parental responsibility have to pay maintenance?

In law, parental responsibility and child maintenance are treated separately. Regardless of their relationship with the child or their mother, a father with or without parental responsibility must support his child. He also has the right to apply for court orders (as outlined above) and apply for reasonable contact with his child if they have entered the care system.

What happens if parents can’t agree on important matters?

Major decisions regarding a child, such as changing their name, moving abroad or putting them up for adoption, must be agreed upon in writing by all those with parental responsibility.

If disagreements occur, we recommend family mediation. This is where future-focussed conversations are facilitated by a neutral party and the parents are encouraged to consider the best interests of the child. Mediation may be held separately, together or be a combination of both.

If an amicable decision cannot be reached, either parent, with or without parental responsibility, can apply to the court for:

  • A prohibited steps order which stops the other person from making decisions about the child
  • A specific issue order for a particular dispute, such as the child’s school or religion

A court order means a judge makes the decision for the parents based on what they consider to be the best course of action for the child.

Parental responsibility for separated couples

Where a relationship breaks down and only the mother has parental responsibility, she automatically has the right for the child to remain with her. The father or the partner of either parent has no rights without a parental agreement (where married) or court order.

If you apply for a court order, you will need to prove that you are committed to the child, that a degree of attachment exists between you, and that the application is in the best interests of the child.

How long does a parent legally have parental responsibility?

Parents have parental responsibility until the child reaches the age of 18, is adopted, or if a court order prohibits it.

How can AGR Law help?

Our experienced team supports parents in all matters relating to parental responsibility, including prohibited steps orders, specific issue orders, adoption, guardianship, name changes and more.

Email us on hello@agrlaw.co.uk or call 0116 340 0094 to find out more.

What is covered by Children Law?

Children Law is a significant area of the legal system covering:

  • Child custody, arrangements and access
  • Surrogacy and adoption
  • Care and maintenance
  • Child welfare, protection and safeguarding
  • Orders pertaining to important aspects of a child’s life such as care, education and religion
  • Children’s rights, including the right to education, a safe home, appropriate employment and support if they need to leave home

These laws aim to ensure a child is safe, well and cared for, and that their rights are protected.

How is a child legally defined?

In England, a child is defined as anyone who has not yet reached their 18th birthday, even if they are over 16 and living independently, in further education, in the armed forces, being treated in hospital or in the justice system.

Important Children Law Acts

The subject of Children Law is vast, so this blog outlines some of the main Acts and what the laws mean to children.

Children Act 1989

This Act defines how children should be kept safe and protected from harm. It forms the basis of children’s services’ duties and responsibilities, specifically identifying children in need, supporting their family to bring them up safely (if their welfare is not compromised by remaining in the family home) and taking the correct action if they consider a child to be suffering, or likely to suffer, significant harm.

It defines parental responsibility and the court orders that children’s services and families can apply for.

Key principles include:

  • The welfare of the child
  • That a child should be cared for by their family where possible
  • The need for children’s services and the court to take the wishes and feelings of the child into account
  • Intervention where necessary and supporting, not undermining, the parent who should be helped to remain closely involved in their child’s life unless the child is at risk of harm
  • Preventing delays to court proceedings in cases involving a child
  • Finding a suitable placement with kinship carers, such as a relative or friend, if a child cannot remain living with their parent(s)

Children Act 2004

This Act expands on the Children Act 1989. It outlines how local authorities should work with other agencies, such as the police and youth offending teams, to promote safety and wellbeing through an integrated approach to the planning, commissioning and delivery of children’s services.

It requires local and national authorities to provide strong leadership by appointing accountable people, including a Children’s Commissioner and directors and lead members of children’s services. It also required local authorities to set up safeguarding boards.

It provides the legal basis for how issues relating to children should be dealt with by agencies and underpins the UK government’s ‘Every Child Matters: Change for Children’ initiative.

The Act’s key values:

  • Ensuring children are healthy, happy and leading an enjoyable life
  • Ensuring children are safe
  • Supporting children to succeed
  • Helping to achieve economic stability for a child’s future
  • Making a positive contribution to a child’s life

Children and Social Work Act 2017

This Act amends both of the above and defines improvements to the support of looked after children and care leavers, promotes the welfare and safeguarding of children, and establishes provisions for social workers via a new regulatory regime.

Key provisions include:

  • Local authorities are known as ‘corporate parents’ to looked after children and care leavers, and this Act outlines seven corporate parenting principles
  • The requirement for local authorities to publish a ‘local offer’ for care leavers setting out the services available to them to help them prepare for adulthood and independence, including a personal advisor if they’re under 25
  • Requiring any court making decisions about long-term placements for children to consider the impact (or likelihood of) any harm to the child, and how their current and future needs will be met
  • Adding prospective adopters (with whom a child has been placed) to the list the court will consider when deciding about adopters
  • Removing the local safeguarding children board and employing the local authority, a clinical commissioning group and the police as key safeguarding partners to decide locally how best to work together to improve safeguarding

Children Law and us

We understand that the breakdown of a family is a difficult time for everyone involved. Our children-first approach puts the needs of younger family members at the centre of cases. By encouraging families seeking support with legal matters to put the interests of any children first, we endeavour to find the best outcome for them.

We can support you with:

  • Child arrangements
  • Childcare cases
  • Prohibited steps orders
  • Specific issue orders
  • Change of name
  • Parental responsibility
  • Special guardianship
  • Adoption
  • Child maintenance
  • Childcare proceedings for public law children matters

Get in touch with us via email to hello@agrlaw.co.uk or 0116 340 0094. We are able to provide Legal Aid or litigation loans to those eligible.

If you suspect or know that a child is in immediate danger, please ring 999 and speak to the police. If you believe a child may be at risk of being in danger, but is not in immediate danger, you can ring 101 or report it to the NSPCC

A pre-nuptial agreement, often referred to as a ‘pre-nup,’ is a written agreement some couples make prior to getting married.

Couples entering a civil partnership can follow the same process and draw up what is known as a ‘pre-cip.’ When we refer to divorce between a married couple in this blog, a couple would dissolve a civil partnership.

Both agreements set out assets you and your future spouse own before you formalise your relationship, or you expect to own afterwards, and how they will be divided should you divorce or dissolve your civil partnership.

Are pre-nuptial agreements just for rich people?

No, they are not just for rich people. Although often associated with high-profile celebrities marrying less or similarly wealthy spouses, pre-nuptial agreements are becoming more common amongst people in any financial circumstance. It’s a common misconception that assets must be of high value to be included in a pre-nuptial agreement.

Are pre-nuptial agreements legally recognised?

Pre-nuptial agreements are not legally binding, but the court considers them when making decisions about your finances and assets if your relationship breaks down and you get divorced. For this reason, they need to be drawn up by an experienced solicitor. Demonstrating that you have taken legal advice prior to signing your pre-nuptial agreement also increases the likelihood of it being upheld, or partially upheld, by the court.

Do I need a pre-nuptial agreement?

Once you are married, all assets owned by you and your new husband, wife or civil partner become matrimonial. This means your spouse has a claim on your assets.

You may feel considering what will happen if your relationship breaks down is pessimistic or unromantic, but we recommend it is sensible to plan your future this way.

Your future spouse might be concerned that it indicates you’re uncertain about the longevity of your relationship, but your pre-nuptial agreement would only need to be used should the marriage fail. If the relationship remains happy, you will never need to mention it again.

Having a pre-nuptial agreement also means you are entering marriage with reduced uncertainty after practical, honest and open discussions have taken place and both of you have disclosed your financial situation fully.

You may wish to consider a pre-nuptial agreement if you:

  • Want to ringfence specific items to stay in your family, such as heirlooms
  • Want to protect any children you have from a former relationship
  • Want to protect yourself from being liable for any debts your partner has or incurs
  • Want to safeguard any significant assets, such as your business and its employees and other owners
  • Are wealthier than your spouse, or you expect to become wealthier, and you would be disproportionately affected if assets were split equally. Wealth can be current or anticipated earnings, inheritance, savings, property, investments or other forms of financial interests
  • Are moving abroad or marrying someone who is not a UK national, and you may be affected by their home country’s laws

How AGR Law can help?

We recommend taking advice from our experienced team on all matters concerning pre-nuptial or pre-cip agreements. Appointments can be made jointly or individually if you prefer. Please call us on or email hello@agrlaw.co.uk for more information.

Following on from her role as President of Leicestershire Law Society (2022-2023), Gina Samuel-Richards has, as of 6th April 2024, been appointed as the Under Sheriff of Leicestershire. Gina takes on the role after Helen Johnson steps down after seven years in the role.

The Under Sheriff provides continuity and consistency to the Shrievalty, giving valuable advice to the High Sheriff in the protocols of court and ceremonial matters, as well as advice on governance.

The Under Sheriff is the liaison between the Shrievalty and the other institutions involved in the field of Law and Order.

Cohabiting couples live together but are not legally married or in a civil partnership. This term also covers couples whose marriage is recognised by their faith but not by the law, as they do not comply with certain requirements.

There is no legal definition for someone who is part of a cohabiting couple. Although some incorrectly refer to themselves as being in a common-law marriage, you’re not legally viewed as a couple. Therefore, you have few rights around property, finances, and children if the relationship ends or one of you dies unless specified in a valid Will or cohabitation agreement.

We recommend that you also consider the following to help protect you and your partner.

Property

  • Renting a property together – a tenancy agreement with both names on it makes you equally responsible for paying the rent and conforming to the terms. If the relationship breaks down and one of you moves out, the tenancy agreement should be altered to reflect this change
  • Buying a property together – including both names on the deeds means, if you split up, you will be entitled to your share of the property. There are two types of tenants – joint tenants (where you own the property together) or tenants in common (where you each own a share). If your partner dies, you will not automatically inherit their share unless stated in their Will
  • Your partner owns or mortgages a property and you move in – unless your name is added to the deeds, you will need to prove to the court you have contributed to a deposit or mortgage payments, or have made a large financial contribution such as major work on the house, on the understanding that you will be entitled to a share if you separate. If your partner dies, you will not be entitled to inherit unless it’s stated in a valid Will
  • You own the property together outright – we recommend you agree on what will happen to the property and state this in a cohabitation agreement or Will

Finance

Cohabiting couples have no financial responsibility to each other if the relationship breaks down. If you have children, you may receive payments from your ex-partner to provide for them, but the law does not oblige them to financially support you also.

Children and parental responsibility in England and Wales

A child’s mother automatically has parental responsibility, meaning she can make decisions on important matters such as living arrangements, medical care, education, religion and managing the child’s property.

Where parents are not married, the father of a child whose birth was registered before 01 December 2003 has no automatic parental responsibility, even if they are named on the birth certificate. If the birth was registered after 01 December 2003, the father only obtains parental responsibility if they are named on the birth certificate.

To gain parental responsibility as an unmarried father, you need to jointly register the birth with the mother or be named on a parental responsibility agreement by the mother of the child or by way of court order.

For same-sex couples, both have parental responsibility if they were in a civil partnership or married at the time of receiving fertility treatment or donor insemination. If you were not in a civil partnership or marriage, the second parent can apply for parental responsibility.

How AGR Law can help protect your and your partner

Cohabitation is a complex area, and the outcome of a dispute often depends on individual circumstances. The law does not protect you in the same way as those who are married or in a civil partnership, so we recommend having a cohabitation agreement in place and a valid, up-to-date Will.

Our experienced team can help with:

  • Drawing up and updating Wills
  • Cohabitation agreements
  • Tenancy and joint tenancy agreements
  • Parental responsibility agreements
  • Determining whether your marriage is recognised by the law

Call us on 0116 340 0094 or email hello@agrlaw.co.uk for more information.

Divorce is a life-altering event which often brings about new routines and significant changes. Even the most civil breakups can be emotionally challenging, leaving you feeling drained and uncertain.

Adjusting can be difficult initially, even for those who view their circumstances positively. The key is to recognise your feelings, not suppress them, as this will have a negative impact on your wellbeing, and find a way to manage them to build a positive future.

Here are our five top tips to help you.

  1. Give yourself time

Be patient with yourself. You have been through a lot, so you may get emotional at times. Don’t compare yourself to others; everyone heals differently, and your journey is individual.

You may need to reflect a bit longer on your relationship to get nearer to closure. You must treat yourself kindly until you can accept what has happened and feel ready to move on.

  1. Lean on your support network

Surround yourself with understanding friends and family who are there for you when you do not feel OK, as well as when you do.

If you would benefit from speaking to people in a similar situation, there may also be support groups in your area. Seek professional help if you feel overwhelmingly anxious or depressed, as a therapist or counsellor can support you in finding mechanisms to help you deal with your emotions.

  1. Do something for you

Try to plan some self-care to help you feel better physically and emotionally. This could include gentle exercise to help you relax, such as yoga or Pilates.

You could take up a new hobby to meet new friends and feel less isolated, rediscover an old hobby, volunteer for a good cause or promise yourself you’ll eat more healthily or get more sleep.

Work self-care into your new routine so, for example, if you and your ex-wife or husband always went out on a Friday night, you can set that time aside for a positive activity just for you.

  1. Protect your boundaries

Protect your emotional wellbeing by setting clear boundaries with your former spouse. This may include a co-parenting plan in which you share the responsibility of raising children and enjoying fun times with them. Try to communicate calmly but clearly to prevent arguments or misunderstandings.

  1. Focus on the future as much as you can

You can’t change the past, so consider your divorce as a stepping stone to a new future. Set new goals if that will help you, but don’t put yourself under any pressure if that feels daunting at this time.

Although divorce is common, nobody enters a marriage expecting their relationship to break down. You may feel angry and resentful, regretful or guilty, lonely and in a sense of grief, betrayed, lost, or sad. These feelings are normal but, if you follow our tips, you can focus on finding a way to move forward with a positive outlook.

Useful contacts

Gingerbread – a charity supporting single parents and their children thrive

Divorce Club – hosted by people who are going through or have been through divorce. Their website includes blogs, a podcast and more

Samaritans – the Samaritans provides emotional support

Relate – Relate is a charity providing counselling and family counselling. They have a wealth of resources on their website relating to moving on after divorce, dealing with separation and more.

Contact AGR Law

Our experienced team understands the legal and emotional aspects of divorce, and we will represent and support you to achieve the best possible outcome. Call us on or email hello@agrlaw.co.uk for more information.

Deciding how to support and manage children is one of the most complex aspects of divorce. This blog provides practical advice to help you and your ex-spouse make arrangements regarding your child or children.

How to communicate with your child

Divorcing is likely to be a highly emotional time. One or both parents may feel angry, confused, betrayed, shocked, sad and more. These feelings are normal, but they can make focusing on finding practical solutions to build your child’s future difficult.

Creating a supportive environment for your child during this transition is crucial. To do this, encourage open communication so you can understand how they are feeling and help them adapt to changes.

It’s essential for both parents to separate their personal feelings about each other and the divorce from their interactions with their children. If you find this overwhelming or difficult, professional help is available from charities such as Relate or you could speak to a counsellor or mediator.

Children cope much better when conflict is reduced, so it’s vital to have discussions and make decisions regarding your child when they are not around to overhear or interrupt. Always communicate with each other directly, not via your child.

Resolution, the membership body for family law professionals who resolve issues constructively, has some useful advice on communicating with children here. If you are struggling to agree on important matters, seek help from a legal professional or mediator.

Will we need to go to court to decide arrangements for our children?

Certain aspects may lead to conflicts during divorce or separation, such as deciding where the children will reside, determining the amount of time they will spend with each parent, and working out how and where special occasions like birthdays and Christmas will be celebrated. Every family is unique, and finding a solution that works for all parties involved may require patience and compromise.

If parents are capable of having discussions, the courts will not intervene in matters related to their children until they have explored every possible solution to reach conclusions but have been unsuccessful in doing so. However, if the divorce is due to domestic abuse, the courts may intervene to protect the safety of the parent and child.

You may also need to go to court if:

  • You’re worried about your child’s safety or wellbeing when they are with the other parent
  • You feel vulnerable or controlled by your ex-partner
  • Your spouse refuses you access to your child
  • Your former partner is alienating you and they are purposefully sabotaging any opportunities you have of having a meaningful relationship with your child. Parental alienation can include making false allegations to persuade authorities you are not fit to be a parent or manipulating the child into not wishing to spend time with you

In such cases, we advise you to speak to a legal professional as they may deem it necessary to apply for a court order known as a ‘child arrangements order.’

Additionally, a ‘specific issue order’ can stipulate how the child is raised. This can include which school they will attend or whether they will be brought up to follow a specific religion. A ‘prohibited steps order’ can be applied for if you need to stop the other parent from making any decisions about the child’s upbringing without informing you or discussing matters with you.

Court intervention is sometimes necessary but should be considered a last resort if you and your former spouse are on speaking terms. Fees and legal representation can be very costly, and the process will likely be stressful and time-consuming for all parties.

Who is responsible for the costs of looking after children?

Responsibility for costs associated with the child lies with both parents, with the parent no longer residing with the family expected to make maintenance payments until the child is 16 (or 20 if still in full-time education).

If the parents cannot agree on a payment amount, the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) will determine it. The CMS can also act if the parent responsible for these payments doesn’t pay.

The amount of maintenance required can depend on several factors, such as the parent’s income, the number of nights the child spends with them, and any other responsibilities the parent has. A useful calculator to work out payments can be found here

Can we make the arrangements for our children legally binding?

Arrangements for your children can be kept informal and flexible, and you are under no obligation to formalise them. However, if parents disagree, are not amicable or are unable to communicate, a court can make child arrangements legally binding through a ‘consent order.’

The consent order can cover all aspects of childcare, such as where the child will live, how much time they spend with each parent, and when and where this contact takes place. It can form part of an overall consent order relating to other aspects of divorce, such as finances, property and maintenance payments.

AGR Law

We’re an award-winning law firm advising individuals and families on all aspects of divorce and child arrangements. We pride ourselves on our children-first, non-confrontational approach to divorce. Contact us on 0116 340 0094 or email us hello@agrlaw.co.uk

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